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Wednesday, May 26, 2010

A Wrinkle in Life

Theme Thursday - Wrinkle

There are all kinds of the ones on your clothes, your face or your dog: small and unimportant wrinkles. And there are life wrinkles, also often small and unimportant. Every now and then, however, we get hit with a life wrinkle that is deep, so deep that it creates a major rift in daily life, with the potential to derail the serenity of existence, a wrinkle whose presence is difficult to deny.  All of us encounter these massive wrinkles that threaten our equilibrium, whether it be divorce, a death in the family, estrangement from a loved one, or whatever form this ever morphing wrinkle chooses to take.

Over the years I have met up with my fair share.  Sometimes I am able to grab an iron, take the bull by the horns, and get in there and deal with the situation, resulting in a satisfying resolution. It is so gratifying when my deft wielding of a verbal iron is able to press that nasty wrinkle into oblivion, creating a once-again smooth surface.

However, what happens when the wrinkle won't go away... no matter the hours spent ironing, trying to reach the heart of a seemingly impenetrable wrinkle? There are various courses of action: permanently removing myself from the situation, ignoring the problem as best I can, or accepting that there is just going to be a wrinkle there, perhaps forever. I most often choose the latter solution, as imperfect as it is; but it is at least a way of moving on with life.

Since I believe that I am constantly learning and changing, perhaps I will discover a new avenue for dealing with a bottomless wrinkle. Maybe I'll discover a new, super-powerful iron that will do the trick. I'd like that,but I am not holding my breath.


  1. What a wonderful post. I've had a lot of wrinkles in my life in the past few years and some of them are bottomless, but like you, maybe someday we will discover a super-powerful iron to smooth them out. You did a fantastic job on the Theme Thursday this week.

  2. This was beautifully written, Jan! I'm living one of those bottomless wrinkles these last few years. Sigh. Yet life goes on, right? :)

  3. you are right. I should try harder to remove myself from the wrinkles over which I have no control.

  4. You are so right. The biggest wrinkle in my life was my daughter's cancer (I've written about her in my posts "Superhero" and "They Walk"), and she was the one to iron it out of my heart. Great TT.

  5. I think we have to accept them, although that is MUCH easier said than done. Your post reminds me of
    "The Serenity Prayer"...
    "God grant me the serenity
    to accept the things I cannot change;
    courage to change the things I can;
    and wisdom to know the difference."
    Very thought provoking post, Jan : )

  6. Never a truer word was spoken. I think we just have to learn to look past the cavernous wrinkles, they're there to remind us of the smooth sailing in between Although I could do with fewer right now! Great post

  7. Jan, I've just been attending to one of those wrinkles on my trip. Helping someone who needs help. It's hard.... Maybe I need a bigger iron, too. :)

  8. fabulous theme Thursday post...
    love the dog and its wrinkles.Smiles!


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